The Day I Decided To Stop Gambling With Gamblers Anonymous

Everything was going perfect for me in life. Good job, good home, good life and good friends. Until one day some friends asked if I wanted to go to the casino. By the time I realized it, three years of my life were gone and I was in debt. It was time to quit.

The day I decided to stop gambling I was depressed and relieved at the same time. I couldn’t go on any longer. I thought all my hopes and dreams were shattered. I couldn’t tell anybody what I was going through. I was afraid that they would be disappointed in me. I remember the first day. I was nervous and anxious. I had a hard time focusing at work. This was not my first time trying to quit. I was sure I really wanted to quit, but wasn’t sure if I could quit.

The day I decided to quit I had no where to turn. I found it was difficult to talk to my family and friends about my problem. I began to do research and found Gamblers Anonymous. I wanted to give Gamblers Anonymous a try. I happened to have met a lot of nice people there. They welcomed me into the group and made me feel comfortable. I had tears coming down my face and my anxiety kicked in. I was very quiet buy my emotions were running wild inside. I made it through my first meeting and was somewhat looking forward to the next one. As each week passed new members would join and others would disappear. This became a weekly event. Who was going to come back and who was going to stay?

I continued to go to my Gamblers Anonymous meeting on a weekly basis. I was always afraid some one would recognize me. The turn over was extraordinary. Each week as I entered the meeting my heart began to race until I was sure I didn’t know any of the new members. It was the tenth week and an old co-worker of mine walked through the doors. We hadn’t worked together for over ten years. I thought about leaving but I decided to stay and try and work it out. Unfortunately he did not keep the Gamblers Anonymous code. He had told a friend who told another friend until it got back to me. It was unfortunate, but I dealt with it and moved on.

I and others unfortunately had other situations occur that were not very positive for us at Gamblers Anonymous. I still thank them for putting me on the road to recovery. From the first time I entered Gamblers Anonymous and followed up with the website I Stopped Gambling So Can You http://www.istoppedgambling.com/

I believe I am on the road to recovery. I take one day at a time and allow myself the option to gamble or not to gamble. This helped me to take control of my life. By allowing myself to make the choice the amount of stress on me has been significantly reduced.

A month after I stopped going to Gamblers Anonymous meetings, I ran into one of the members. He was curious at how I was doing and asked me if I would be there next week? I told him I would try and make the meeting. I popped in a few times more to tell them how I was doing. They were all glad to see me, but I wasn’t in compliance with the rules of Gamblers Anonymous, so I decided not to go back. In this particular group I attended, they have rules that do not allow a member to comment during therapy if they did not attend four consecutive weekly meetings. I respected their rules but realized it was time to move on. I told the group and thanked them very much for putting me in the right direction and left.

After this experience I created a website that would allow people to be themselves as they recover. This site is also the closest to anonymous you can get. There you will also find a private stop gambling chat room and a self help manual to help gamblers stop compulsive gambling addiction. The website is I Stopped Gambling So Can You http://www.istoppedgambling.com/.

My experience from Gamblers Anonymous meetings to now has helped me to stop gambling. I stopped so can you!

Why Online Gambling at Home Can Be More Addictive Than Sex!

For the last few generations we have come to the conclusion that sex can become an addiction. Gambling too has been addiction for a long time but when we talk about online gambling it is an addiction which is only now catching fire.

People have always believed that the best thing to do at home is to have sex. There are many reasons for this. Sex at home means complete privacy. You know there won’t be anyone peeping inside your house and disturbing you. Sex at home also means absolute comfort. The old saying ‘home sweet home’ is so apt in this situation. Since you know every nook and corner of your house, it is the most comfortable place too. No other bed in the world can be as comfortable as your bed.

The latest craze in the world of the internet is online gambling. Most regular online gamblers feel that online gambling is definitely more interesting and addictive than sex and they don’t have just a reason or two to support their point of view.

So, what is it that makes online gambling from home so irresistible?

1. The adrenalin rush: – Sex is said to give a couple such a great adrenalin rush. This rush is just for a few seconds when we talk about sex. In online gambling, winning cash gives you an adrenalin rush. This rush is such a great rush as it doesn’t last for a few seconds but it continues till Lady Luck shines on you.

2. No sweat and no mess: – Sex is always best when it is steaming hot but that means a lot of sweat, stickiness and even stench. Gambling online is absolutely hassle free. All you have to do is to enjoy yourself with no clean up afterward.

3. Money in flow: – When you have sex, there is a lot of money spent. In case your partner is not in a mood or is upset about something, then it may fall upon you to spend money on some roses or presents to cheer them up. It is a must that you use some protection and for that you will have to go out to buy it. Online gambling on the other hand involves no such expenditure. You have no need to travel outside, need not dress up and need not pay anyone. Apart from all of this if you win then there is the bonus of a cash influx.

4. No wastage of time: – For sex you need to cajole and woo your partner into that mood. In online gambling whenever you want to gamble just switch on your computer and you can start almost instantly.

5. No dress code: – when you have sex to get into the feel of it you will have to dress up in sexy outfits and you should be presentable at that time. While gambling online all you have to wear is something that you are comfortable in it doesn’t need any dressing up or show.

6. Alone or not, no problems: – For sex it is a must that you have your partner. To gamble online you need no one, you can still gamble. Even if a group of friends are around you, it will not affect you and gambling with friends can be a whole lot of fun.

Protecting Against Financial Abuse

For protection we often rely on banks, locks, password codes, credit cards, hiding places and even fighting skills. Yet, like the story of the Emperor's New Clothes, we often deny ourselves the biggest threat to our own or organization's wealth (and sanity).

I am talking about the addictive personality.

Here are some examples that I have personally witnessed:

A relative losing her house due to her son's drug addictions.

(My mother's house near break-in from harboring the mentioned drug addict.)

An associate losing money from trying to support their drug and video game addict children.

A gym owner whose gambling-addicted girlfriend put his business heavily in debt.

A military party fund that went missing to an alcoholic who had volunteered to look after it.

Rent and investments that have disappeared by trusting a drug addict.

And the list goes on.

I mention this because good health includes financial health.

Now, many people argue that the stigma of addiction is what is driving addicts towards suicide and more destructive behavior. (You will see public signs all over Vancouver stating that drug addicts are also co-workers, relatives, friends and generally nice people.) Well, the point here is to protect YOU and not intellectualize why theY hurt your financial health. It makes as about as much sense as trying to reason with a grizzly bear or a mad dog. Forget it.

Instead, take note of the following behaviors of the addicted personalities:

1. Moody .

They often fluctuated between being sweet and charming and surly and angry.

2. Bursts over-achievement

Some addictive personalities actually perform high in academics, sales and athletics. I personally knew several high-performing martial artists and soldiers who drank heavily and fell into heavy drug use. Addictive types will so great bursts of work or productivity for short periods, giving the impression that they are high performers.

They often make a big display of any minor achievement such as doing volunteering or exercising.

3. Often sick.

4. Frequently take / request time off.

5. Frequent money problems.

They frequently borrow money or ask for pay advances from work.

6. Unethical behavior

They often lie, steal, cheat and degrade others, while co-workers and family will constantly cover up for them.

7. Often smoke

Not always, but most addicts smoke.

8. Tendency towards swearing and violence

9. Gulping alcohol

This is something that I witnessed in the military. The heavy drinkers could never just sip and enjoy a drink. They had to gulp it down. One co-worker would buy six beers at a time and down them one after another before "Happy Hour" was over.

10. Blaming others

If you ever talk to an addictive person, you will hear all about how things are "everyone else's fault" and all of the psychological and family reasons why they excessively drink, gamble or play video games.

This list is not complete and it might even make the reader squirm a bit if it sounds too personal or "close to home." The truth is, you are often aware that something is "not quite right" about a co-worker, employee, boss or associate and that you should keep them away from your money, home or business. Sometimes you cannot if you are a co-worker, business partner or spouse. Like martial arts, fighting and military skills, you have to be able to maintain a strong defense and preparation against such people.

It all boils down to trusting your instincts in the first place.

Stay healthy.

Stay safe.